can i say and i read it a lot on here, that just because the SS have to fund a person, it doesnt mean that the home is substandard. it might not have the frills and flounces but that that doesnt mean that the care is below that of the expensive homes., i worked in a home that had local, county and self-funding structure. i wouldnt know who was self-funding or who was being funded, they had absolutely the same care and attention. the same quality of care with very well trained carers who were put on training courses about everything connected to dementia and had to have the mandatory training once a year. so please dont see LA funded care any less than any "posh" care home. some are better than others which includes the grand ones with glossy brochures which is what you are paying for not the care. i hope that has reassured you to think about having respite and having a rest.