Hi my name is Susan and I have been a carer for my mum for the last 7 years. It has been a very roller coaster ride but the final stages seems even more scary and much more of a emotional roller coaster. Last November my mum had a fall. She seemed ok after she had been checked out by the paramedics. But then a few days later she began to stumble and couldn't put one leg in front of the other. Then we found that she had a ulcer on her heel so was put on bed rest. They got us a proper bed for.mum to lie in . That was the 19 th December 2017. The ulcer on her heel is healing but she now has one on her leg which isn't getting better but not getting any worse. Mum is now hit and miss with her eating and drinking. She also is getting very chesty some day are worse than others. Everything we have done for mum we have had to fight for. Mums wish was to not be put in a home and as a family we have followed that through, even though at one time they were going to fight us to put mum in a home. At the time we kept telling the doctor her medication wasn't working but wouldn't listen to us. As a result she lost weight and went down to 6 stone. She was put in restbite for four weeks to sort her medication out and put some weight back on. The nursing home were trying to get her to stay in. But we fought so mum could come home. Now all mum does is sleep and eat when she feels like it. It's horrible just watching my mum slowly die in front of my eyes. And like everyone else has said you don't know how long it will last. Sorry for the long draft