Hi Everyone,
I wanted to drop a line to say 'Thank you' to all the support and advice I have been given here and to update.
A brief recap: my Mum is in a care home - a not very good one - and has come off the back of four unwitnessed falls, horrific trips (for her and me trying to calm her) to A & E, long stays in hospital (the last one being for sepsis) and three days back at the care home where she finally has given up.
At the same time my sister filed spurious charges with Social Services and I faced Safeguarding. Not one charge as I thought in my previous post but FOUR! I couldn't believe it. Social Services in their wisdom put restrictions on my visiting my mother of limited hours and someone sitting in with me. It was so intrusive, so embarrassing to try and talk to my Mum - to say something that matters to her - while someone is sat watching not two feet away.
I asked Social Services to explain why this was imposed, what were the 'charges', etc but they never replied.
My mother has now been fast tracked. She sleeps, does not swallow food or water anymore, and at the most murmurs a reply. When the care home asked the GP to visit he refused, saying there was nothing more he could do. Wonderful.
I arranged Last Rites yesterday. A priest from her local church which she used to attend before she went into the care home. I am not religious but it broke me up. I couldn't stop crying.
When I saw Mum, when she was responsive, I used to joke with her 'Who's my gorgeous girl?' and she would say 'I am'. I said it to her yesterday and I got a mumble.
Nothing more to say. Just wanted to share some of my sorrow and anger.
I wanted to drop a line to say 'Thank you' to all the support and advice I have been given here and to update.
A brief recap: my Mum is in a care home - a not very good one - and has come off the back of four unwitnessed falls, horrific trips (for her and me trying to calm her) to A & E, long stays in hospital (the last one being for sepsis) and three days back at the care home where she finally has given up.
At the same time my sister filed spurious charges with Social Services and I faced Safeguarding. Not one charge as I thought in my previous post but FOUR! I couldn't believe it. Social Services in their wisdom put restrictions on my visiting my mother of limited hours and someone sitting in with me. It was so intrusive, so embarrassing to try and talk to my Mum - to say something that matters to her - while someone is sat watching not two feet away.
I asked Social Services to explain why this was imposed, what were the 'charges', etc but they never replied.
My mother has now been fast tracked. She sleeps, does not swallow food or water anymore, and at the most murmurs a reply. When the care home asked the GP to visit he refused, saying there was nothing more he could do. Wonderful.
I arranged Last Rites yesterday. A priest from her local church which she used to attend before she went into the care home. I am not religious but it broke me up. I couldn't stop crying.
When I saw Mum, when she was responsive, I used to joke with her 'Who's my gorgeous girl?' and she would say 'I am'. I said it to her yesterday and I got a mumble.
Nothing more to say. Just wanted to share some of my sorrow and anger.