Yes Louise, I agree with Hazel. I know I'm being negative, but there is always a chance that something ELSE will crop up to make it even harder for you to supervise your Mother's care - perhaps if you need to go to hospital, or one of the children is ill . . . ? (I hope I'm not jinxing you!! )Skye said:If I had to choose, I would go hor the care home option, simply based on the fact that you have a bad back and two small children.
If you went for the carer, you would still have the responsibility of keeping a check on things, making sure your mum was safe and well. I know you would still feel responsible if she was in a NH, but if you were unable to visit for a few days you would know she was being looked after.
Join Date: Apr 2007
My dads just died leaving me with mother who has AD. She needs 24 hour care and has got worse since he died three weeks ago. She has fallen three times in three weeks last time being last night. I have two kids age 7 and 4. Social Services are useless but coming round Monday. I've had to take a bank loan to pay for her personal care with an agency. I'm at my wits end. My kids are suffering, my husbands been great but running out of patience.
She's also incontenant both ways. Doctor won't help. Tesco pads are useless, District nurse dosn't want to know.
I 2nd thatWhen the times comes and I am ready I shall do the same and I shan't feel one bit guilty as I would have done my best for her.
My mother came back from respite last week , I pack her toothbrush , her teeth till look like they had not been brush . gone all funny yellow , don't know if it was because I had forgot to pack steradent to put her teeth in .they had not brushed her teeth for 10 days as I forgot to pack her toothsbrush,
With my mother she came back with different clothes & half of her clothes missing & her slippers , but that does seem a very common thing to happen , from what I have read on TP .she also lost ALL of her clothes (apart from those that she was standing up in