Skye said:If I had to choose, I would go hor the care home option, simply based on the fact that you have a bad back and two small children.
If you went for the carer, you would still have the responsibility of keeping a check on things, making sure your mum was safe and well. I know you would still feel responsible if she was in a NH, but if you were unable to visit for a few days you would know she was being looked after.
Wise words Margaret; so often we become wrapped up in what is the best thing for the person that we are caring for, that we forget other family members, and ourselves.Your children have a right to your time as well as your mum.
Join Date: Apr 2007
My dads just died leaving me with mother who has AD. She needs 24 hour care and has got worse since he died three weeks ago. She has fallen three times in three weeks last time being last night. I have two kids age 7 and 4. Social Services are useless but coming round Monday. I've had to take a bank loan to pay for her personal care with an agency. I'm at my wits end. My kids are suffering, my husbands been great but running out of patience.
She's also incontenant both ways. Doctor won't help. Tesco pads are useless, District nurse dosn't want to know.
When the times comes and I am ready I shall do the same and I shan't feel one bit guilty as I would have done my best for her.
they had not brushed her teeth for 10 days as I forgot to pack her toothsbrush,
she also lost ALL of her clothes (apart from those that she was standing up in