I think mum feeds of my energy and knows when I am nervous and anxious - which leads her to be like that also.
Yes, that's exactly what happens. Try not to appear nervous when you visit. As difficult as it is, walking in with a big smile, saying how lovely the place/her room is and distracting really helps. Always act and speak positively even if you don't feel it. Frequently packing is a common problem but if your Mum still has bags/cases in her room removing these may help. Good luck!