Have been looking after Dad for two years, he came to live with us at start of pandemic as was no way he’d cope. He’s been declining over that time but no diagnosis (see thread GP memory test useless)
Started down route with Social Work but it’s been made clear my LA (Fife) will only assist critical cases and I doubt Dad will be assessed as critical. I will apply for what financial assistance is available, Attendance/Carers but this doesn’t solve the problem.
Essentially I want my life back - I want my home and marital relationship back (we’ve only been together 10 years). I want to do my work again full time. To be able to go out without having to make sure Dad is ‘set up’, worrying if he’ll do something stupid or risky, again. Go on holiday. Watch tv without interruptions. And with my husband enjoying it with me, not going off to another room. Have privacy again. Not have the old man smells and nasty habits. Not to have umpteen appointments and ‘taxi’ runs to doctor’s, podiatrist, hospital, etc. Not be responsible.
My father was barely around (in the navy) when I was a kid and has always been emotionally distant. It’s been a sense of duty that’s kept me going so far not love. So I’m trying not to feel guilty.
If the LA will not fund a care home place for him as non-critical and he doesn’t have savings to pay what happens?
Started down route with Social Work but it’s been made clear my LA (Fife) will only assist critical cases and I doubt Dad will be assessed as critical. I will apply for what financial assistance is available, Attendance/Carers but this doesn’t solve the problem.
Essentially I want my life back - I want my home and marital relationship back (we’ve only been together 10 years). I want to do my work again full time. To be able to go out without having to make sure Dad is ‘set up’, worrying if he’ll do something stupid or risky, again. Go on holiday. Watch tv without interruptions. And with my husband enjoying it with me, not going off to another room. Have privacy again. Not have the old man smells and nasty habits. Not to have umpteen appointments and ‘taxi’ runs to doctor’s, podiatrist, hospital, etc. Not be responsible.
My father was barely around (in the navy) when I was a kid and has always been emotionally distant. It’s been a sense of duty that’s kept me going so far not love. So I’m trying not to feel guilty.
If the LA will not fund a care home place for him as non-critical and he doesn’t have savings to pay what happens?