Kevin Whateley - What an ambassador!!!

Discussion in 'ARCHIVE FORUM: Support discussions' started by Tender Face, Mar 23, 2009.

  1. Welsh Colleen

    Welsh Colleen Registered User

    Mar 23, 2009
    13
    Wales
    My first post

    This is my first post. I too had to steel myself but found it easer to watch than I thought it would be.
    It was informative and helpful, without causing too much heartache, although there was some.
    My Mum has been in and out of CHs since last June, when my Father found he could no longer cope with caring for her at home. He had carers going in daily, along with family support but as he was terminally ill (sadly we lost him Sept), it was just too much for him.
    Mum has lots of nursing needs as well as having vascular dememtia. I thought we had finally found a good NH in October near to where I live.
    I am at present having some concerns with her care as they are doing a great job on her nursing side but her dementia needs are being neglected.
    Two things that reached me from the programme was the music, Mum loves a CD player I took in at Christmas, and sadly the other was how I am feeling, that I am grieving now for Mum but she is still there.
    Thanks to the programe makers and to Kevin and John for sahring their pain with us.
     
  2. Tender Face

    Tender Face Account Closed

    Mar 14, 2006
    5,379
    NW England
    Interesting point, Sylvia. I purposely protected/diverted my teenage son from watching the programme (trying to support him through his own grief issues at the minute) ... and Barb's point is so valid .... but how do we get the message across without actually frightening younger people?

    We can tell them not to smoke in case they get cancer, we can tell them not to drink in case they get liver disease etc etc - but until we can offer some message of hope for them regarding dementia - how on earth can anyone reach a 'young' audience without simply scaremongering and offering them the potential 'doom and gloom' that might await them in spite of all the healthy living we might try to promote in them? Lots of diseases are about minimising risk from an early age ..... but with Alz and other variants we don't know what it is we are supposed to minimise or maximise - or even if we do - would it make any earthly difference?

    I struggle to think of an appropriate way to 'inform' children or young people and young adults without giving some 'silver lining' of hope? If we can get to even a silver lining - that might be progress?

    Karen, x
     
  3. JPG1

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    Jul 16, 2008
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    Random Is My Word For Dementia

    All I can offer to your debate, Karen, is the word "random" which is a word that most younger people understand.

    In the same way that many 'unexplained' diseases are not targetted - they merely find their way by random selection.

    Not meant to sound like selection of the fittest, or even selection of the "unfittest", but merely selection at random. Like the pinball machine of old; like the bagatelle of old; like Bingo, and perhaps like the .... ... ... you tell me!!

    That's the most comforting word that I could begin to come up with at the moment.

    Random Dementia.

    Dementia finds its path at random, and by random selection. Unless and until some 'expert' comes up with a better word to describe it.
     
  4. sumosumo

    sumosumo Registered User

    Aug 20, 2008
    85
    Isle of Man
    My first quote work:) Thanks JennifaPa for the lesson.
     
  5. Tender Face

    Tender Face Account Closed

    Mar 14, 2006
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    NW England
    Random is the antithesis of help and understanding for young people. Children and young people need uniqueness and individuality and a sense of self and having some control about their own lives and destiny - which is what scares me about getting a message across to an audience too young who could be harmed more than motivated at their level of understanding that dementia may one day claim them.

    I didn't mean to 'spark' a debate - just acknowledging some very valid observations about a programme.

    What I believe Kevin has done (as others like him) is to take social responsibility ... and I believe that is what THIS generation has to do ..... highlight what we know and move that forward (in whatever way we can) to protect the next generations without putting the onus on them to take responsibility for things they should not have to worry about, let alone understand .......

    Karen
     
  6. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
    10,824
    london
    Hi Welsh Colleen

    Welcome to Talking Point, glad you found talking point thank - you for sharing. Sorry to read about your mother passing away in September
     
  7. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
    10,824
    london
    Lynn was it not the green paper that pass made it to the white paper for the National Dementia Strategies to happen?
     
  8. JPG1

    JPG1 Account Closed

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    #48 JPG1, Mar 24, 2009
    Last edited: Mar 24, 2009
    Reply to Karen,

    We are debating. With or without a spark. Spontaneous combustion!

    I use the word “random” as the only word I personally have ever found to define how ‘dementia’ finds its ‘targets’, its ‘sufferers’, its ‘victims’.

    You asked, Karen, how to get the message across without frightening young people, so that they can understand that no matter whether they eat their greens, or make their own efforts to ‘live healthily’ and so on ... as did my own dementia –targets ... then there is no reasoning behind who will and who will not develop dementia.

    All I can find to suggest is the comfort from knowing that there are no defined reasons yet. No defined reasons that we know about, or the experts have told us about yet.

    Which is why I use the word random, to describe the way that dementia finds its target.

    The best way to ‘help ‘young people can only be to tell the gentle truth. As we know it now.

    There is no way that you can give a young person control over whether or not they acquire dementia at some point in their future. Any more they can gain control over whether they acquire .... any unqualified condition.

    If there is, then share the secret.

    Their tomorrow is also our tomorrow, even though we may be just a tad older than them! So if there is a way of giving them control over their own medical-condition controlled lives and destiny, then us older ones must have missed the trick long ago.

    All we can be asked to do is to impart to the younger generation the benefit (as we see it now) of our acquired knowledge. And at the moment, there is no way of knowing or predicting who will/may be affected by any dementia at any point between now and .... then.

    Thanks for the spark, Karen!
     
  9. Lucille

    Lucille Registered User

    Sep 10, 2005
    542
    Hello Karen et al

    Thanks for starting this thread. I watched this programme with my mum ... well tried to. She talked over most of it, saying, "I feel sorry for people that are senile." !!!:confused: I've given up trying to explain to her about her "type" of dementia.

    I agree with what others have said about the politico not answering the question, how annoying ... but they are well trained, huh? Kevin must have great patience not pursuing the issue or did they edit out the MP being lamped?! :D:D

    I thought the programme was excellent. Like Bruce I'd like to see something about VaD as this is what my mum suffers from and on the face of it can appear "normal" and able. But I feel that any publicity for dementia is positive, if it serves to educate in terms of what is waiting around the corner for some of us (in fact all of us, if we are talking about financial implications, for the working population as a whole).
     
  10. janjan

    janjan Registered User

    Jan 27, 2006
    229
    Birmingham
    I watched this program tonight.
    Kevin did i think, a good insight into most aspects of how Dementia effects both sufferer and carer, in a direct attitude. And also on what should be sorted out now for the future.
     

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