Hi everyone My new problem (I seem to have a new one each day) is how do I go about getting mum to keep herself clean. In the past 2 weeks she has started to wet herself sometimes and I know she does change her pants but she doesn't always change her skirt or trousers. Then I cannot seem to get her to have a bath or wash her hair. When I try and encourage her or suggest that she has a bath, she says, "why ? I don't go anywhere what do I need a bath for!" she is starting to look really bedraggled and unkept and obviously this is my problem more than mums, as I don't want her to look like this. She was always fastidious about her cleanliness and her clothes and her home. We now have to tell her that she has a doctors or hospital appointment so that she will get in the bath, and then tell her that whilst she was in the bath, they have phoned and it has been cancelled. I do have a problem with lying to her but it seems to be the only way and I feel it is for her own good. Has anyone any other suggestions how to get her to bathe.