Dad lives alone and has carers daily for 30 minutes. The plan was that the carers would arrive at lunch time, put out clean clothes and ask Dad to have a shower and brush his teeth and put on the clean clothes while they are preparing his lunch. Dad refuses to shower or get changed, rarely eats his lunch so the only thing his carers do is make sure he takes his meds.
I have tried to encourage him to shower, brush his teeth and change his clothes but he asks, 'Why, do I smell?' Well Dad, frankly yes you do. The only thing he will allow us to do is shave him as he never does this either. He has dentures for his two front teeth which he has broken and refuses to get replaced and his teeth are very dirty so I would be reluctant to take him to the dentist even if he would go. He will only allow me to cut his hair which looks awful - I'm really not a hairdresser. His toe nails need cutting but I'm not sure that anyone would go anywhere near his feet.
Dad often asks me if he is caring for himself and keeping himself clean but if I say no he gets upset or cross.
How can I help Dad to clean up whilst maintaining his dignity?
I have tried to encourage him to shower, brush his teeth and change his clothes but he asks, 'Why, do I smell?' Well Dad, frankly yes you do. The only thing he will allow us to do is shave him as he never does this either. He has dentures for his two front teeth which he has broken and refuses to get replaced and his teeth are very dirty so I would be reluctant to take him to the dentist even if he would go. He will only allow me to cut his hair which looks awful - I'm really not a hairdresser. His toe nails need cutting but I'm not sure that anyone would go anywhere near his feet.
Dad often asks me if he is caring for himself and keeping himself clean but if I say no he gets upset or cross.
How can I help Dad to clean up whilst maintaining his dignity?