Hello my mum has been battling dementia for five years she is still at home being looked after by my dad who is 81 I'm finding it extremely hard to cope with all the emotions as I live next door to my parents. I lost my brother very suddenly just after mum was diagnosed I do have the support of a wonderful husband & son sometimes I feel so guilty for feeling like this. It is a terrible disease my heart goes out to everyone going through this . Any ideas on how to cope any better????? Xx
Kacey
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Just keep breathing in and out! Sadly there are no definite 'one size fits all ' solution.
What I can understand is the mention of your late brother. The very same thing happened to me- my older brother died and I found myself getting angry..? upset...? ( It varied! ) that he had gone and wasn't there to help.
What I can understand is the mention of your late brother. The very same thing happened to me- my older brother died and I found myself getting angry..? upset...? ( It varied! ) that he had gone and wasn't there to help.
So very sorry to read both these sad stories..and I do feel for you.I'm caring for my husband, who is only a few months older than me. My daughter in law has been wonderful, but I hate the feeling I'm spoiling her life too.
I find it helps to remind myself of how animals manage. They live in the present, every new thing is just something to be got through, but they don't concern themselves with the why?s and what if?s. I wish I was a dog sometimes.
I find it helps to remind myself of how animals manage. They live in the present, every new thing is just something to be got through, but they don't concern themselves with the why?s and what if?s. I wish I was a dog sometimes.
I read your note and it struck home. My daughter and her husband want us to buy a farm with them so that we can have an annex next door. My wife is suffering from Vascular Dementia and has been for the past 7 years. I have now come to the position where I take it day by day. I dont look any further that going to bed tonight. I have to deal with whatever comes during those hours and nothing else. We live day by day.
My wife does not look either backwards or forward she cant. She lives in the moment.
I thought that an annex would be good but your experience does not seem to support my idea?
Just as a point, jpk, if you and your wife move now, how would she cope with the move? Sooner rather than later is better, personal experience. Though I knew we could not cope at the old place, it was still very much of a struggle for OH, suffering but un diagnosed at then.
