Just wanted to share with you all some good news .
Mum went to visit Social services day center , as she been offered 2 days so with the other 2 days she go to AZ day-center she have 4 days .
and if all go OK she get one extra day so that make it Monday - Friday she be at day center .
When she went to SS day-center to day , she was Ok only because she saw another lady from AZ day-center that also go to both day-center .
they told me that the opening came up for mum to go to SS day-center , because another lady who use to go 7 day's , This lady lived alone for a long time and her daughter lived very far away . the time came that the lady daughter , needed to put her mother in to a care home near her .
I never new they had this purpose build day center in my area , taken me 5 years of caring for my mother to reach my Goal in getting mum in a full time day-center , keeping her out of care home for as long as possible .
Only when I thought thats it can't do it any more so ask SS to help me look for care home , that they turn up with this idea , that I wanted all along .
I can finally get a life . Most wried thing is I don't know what I want to do , feel like I have been indoctrinated these past 5 year with caring for my mother , that O lost part of myself , so am having lots of what feel like downloaded memories , of before caring for my mother and they feel good .
Feel like celebrating with tear's of joy & relief .
Mind you I do have a bit of a challenge as mum , gets very confused with trying to understand the two different day center & does not want to go to both Just stay in now , tell me she does not like this house we move to , so wants to move back to other flat, I take what she is saying as she feeling insecure .
I do find not giving my mother to much information , taking one day at the time with her when telling her anything , help her / me more .
I would never of really understood this , if I never came across TP , so I thanks you all for sharing xx
Mum went to visit Social services day center , as she been offered 2 days so with the other 2 days she go to AZ day-center she have 4 days .
and if all go OK she get one extra day so that make it Monday - Friday she be at day center .
When she went to SS day-center to day , she was Ok only because she saw another lady from AZ day-center that also go to both day-center .
they told me that the opening came up for mum to go to SS day-center , because another lady who use to go 7 day's , This lady lived alone for a long time and her daughter lived very far away . the time came that the lady daughter , needed to put her mother in to a care home near her .
I never new they had this purpose build day center in my area , taken me 5 years of caring for my mother to reach my Goal in getting mum in a full time day-center , keeping her out of care home for as long as possible .
Only when I thought thats it can't do it any more so ask SS to help me look for care home , that they turn up with this idea , that I wanted all along .
I can finally get a life . Most wried thing is I don't know what I want to do , feel like I have been indoctrinated these past 5 year with caring for my mother , that O lost part of myself , so am having lots of what feel like downloaded memories , of before caring for my mother and they feel good .
Feel like celebrating with tear's of joy & relief .
Mind you I do have a bit of a challenge as mum , gets very confused with trying to understand the two different day center & does not want to go to both Just stay in now , tell me she does not like this house we move to , so wants to move back to other flat, I take what she is saying as she feeling insecure .
I do find not giving my mother to much information , taking one day at the time with her when telling her anything , help her / me more .
I would never of really understood this , if I never came across TP , so I thanks you all for sharing xx
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