Just to say hello to people who understand. I hate to stay away for too long, as you are my support system! I have now managed (after quite some time) to jump the particular hurdle which was worrying me a lot. Mum has been forgetting to wash etc, and though she now has her new double shower, still she wasn't aware of what she had to do. I went up first thing this morning, suggested to her that she may like to try a shower whilst I was there. She agreed, and followed like a lamb. Whilst she was in the shower, i laid out a lovely new sweater etc, and then she did her hair with mousse and rollers, once I'd shown her where it all was again. She looked wonderful. That was a difficult thing for me ..... Meanwhile she is still suffering from this head cold which I believe may be a side effect of her Aricept. She also seems to be feeling cold, almost shivery, despite her heating being on, plus her gas fire. The letter I wrote to the Dr prior to the last appt at the Memory Clinic was 'lost', and the one I sent afterwards, 3 weeks ago, has had no response. We see her GP on Friday for a review, and so hope to speak to him again about it. I am beginning to feel that perhaps this is all just a manifestation of the disease process. Has anyone had similar experiences as the disease has progressed? It felt good today though, because she looked so clean and cuddly. Sorry if I'm a nuisance, telling you all this. Noboby else in the family wold think to phone to find out how she is. I have tried phonng them, but to no avail. If I didn't phone, they woldn't phone me ...it hurts sometimes, but then they don't undertand.