My mum has been in a Residential home for nearly 3 years. It was decided by the rest of the family (my 2 brothers and 1 sister) that this was right option for her. I wasn't happy about this but it happened anyhow. She'd had a recent history of falls. For 2 years she was quite happy, was forgetful and slightly confused but not too much to worry about. Since just before Christmas last year she had a quite sudden decline in her memory. Everyone insisted it was just confusion put down to old age, she is now 90. Over the last 4 to 6 months she's started to get more aggressive, shouting at myself mostly and occassionally at the staff. About 3 months ago she was assessed for Dementia but we were told it wasn't that. 5 weeks ago she became unwell, just wanted to sleep all the time, hardly opened her eyes when awake, needed thickened drinks as kept coughing/choking and as she refused to wear her false teeth had to have mashed/pureed food. She got took into hospital and was treated for a urine infection. She stayed in hospital in bed for 4 weeks. While there we were told she did have Dementia!! We were then told she needed nursing care and we had to find her a place in another home. She has been there a week now and isn't settling very well, isn't eating much and I am really finding it hard to know what to do or what to say to her. I have visited her everyday for last 3 years since she went into the home and it is me who she seems to display her worst behaviour to. Yesterday she shouted all afternoon and wouldn't believe any answers to anything she asked me. She was adamant I don't go to see her, that she doesn't live there, that she's had no food, that she hasn't been in bed for weeks, that she doesn't need her teeth or her glasses!!! Has anyone else experienced behaviour like this just for them, not anyone else in the family or anyone else that visits??? I would be grateful of any help, comments, advice or suggestions.