@canary that is a very important point to make. While I can never forget the traumatic times of John’s wandering it is no longer the dominant memory. Because he stayed at home with me during the 7 years of his illness we climbed to peak despair then down the other side as his mobility and general awareness declined. I am hoping overtime that I’ll just remember the pre dementia days.It will come, I promise.
It is nearly three years now since mum died and I can remember all the good times again. The sad memories are there too, but they no longer dominate