Hello everyone. This is my first post. I phoned my mum tonight and the neighbour was there with her son. They'd found mum in the street trying to get a taxi home. This is the first time I've known her to do this, although the neighbour said there had been other occasions too. I don't know why they hadn't told me before. Anyway, when I spoke to mum she was so confused it was just awful, so upsetting. Mum's mental state has been deteriorating over the last 18 months or so and now it has reached a point where we really need to do something. She has carers three times a day, I'm there two days a week and my brother pops up at the weekend to do the shopping. The rest of the time, she lives alone. I have tried in the past to get mum to go and spend a bit of respite time with my dad who lives in a nearby care home. It's a nice place, and he's well looked after. He's not in good health and uses a wheelchair now. However, mum is convinced that dad has walked out on her to go and live in residential care and she wants to divorce him! So she seldom sees him now (she refuses to go) and when she does, she's really horrible to him. I do understand that she feels he has abandoned her, but it's pretty tough on dad. So I'm feeling horribly guilty and really stressed about the whole situation. I live 100 miles away, which makes everything even more horrendous. I have asked mum to live with me, although we'd need to make some big changes to the house, but she says she doesn't want to and I actually think she'd be so disorientated by the move that it would be really difficult for her. She's 93 and has lived in the same area in the same town all her life. How can I persuade her that a move to residential care might be a good idea? That she'd have people to talk to and her husband (!) and we'd all visit just as much and do all the same things - lunches, hairdressers and so on. I'd really appreciate some help if anyone has been in the same situation.