I am just moaning/venting really, but it can make difference sometimes. Today we have had what I would now term as 'a good day'. I've had time to think, I suppose.I'm not sure if I underestimate my husbands problems....then again at other times I think am I making a mountain out of a mole hill. I feel we are well supported..social worker, CPN, excellent GP, psychiatrist, care package, supportive daughters and friends. Yet, despite all this I sometimes feel that I am swimming against a very strong tide! My husband will soon be 67 and he has Vascular Dementia. He also has bipolar, COPD, an underactive thyroid gland and has had a double bypass. With all his other health problems I felt there was always hope, but with the Vascular Dementia I see no hope at all. I see today as a good day, yet my husband has said very little that makes sense, hasn't been sure what day it is or what time of day. He went into town briefly with his carer,other than that he has nodded off sitting up on the sofa, eaten (a huge positive at the moment). How can this be a good day? Perhaps my positive mood is because we actually got a few hours sleep last night. Lots off upstairs and downstairs trips by my husband before midnight....even though he has sleeping tablets. Then, for the first time in weeks, he slept almost solidly for five hours...amazing!!! The thing is that I think I become so used to the problems related to Vascular Dementia that I don't see thing changing until a crisis occurs. Quite often the crisis occurs at the same time that an infection rears its ugly head. By the way, can anybody explain to me why my husband gets so many infections when he didn't pre dementia? Each time he gets an infection his dementia becomes worse, so I dread them ...he always ends up in hospital. If I get exhausted now, where will I find the energy when things become more difficult? I know from reading the posts that there people managing situations that are far more difficult. Hope this makes sense...just writing down my thoughts really. Hugs to everybody who needs them today.