Hi I don't live with my dad (250 miles away) but visit regularly and run as much as I can from a distance. He is 94, virtually blind, has mixed dementia and is chair-bound. I usually cope but today I snapped. I rang up just for a little chat to see how he is - nothing new there. But he launched into a diatribe about how he was imprisoned and the carers wouldn't let him open the door and he could go to law to get his rights back. He has 6 carers, with very few breaks in the day when he is alone but when they aren't there I ask for the doors to be shut and key removed. He wants to sit at the open door to get the sun. I've said, that would be OK but there would need to be a carer there all the time, which he says is unnecessary. He went on and on until I said fine, do what you like, I've had enough. He is going through one of his rare less demented phases so his old obstinate dictatorial character is surfacing. I have H&W POA so if he does go out and falls or if he lets someone into the house (which happened a few years ago and he was robbed), will that be my fault for not caring for him? He hauls himself into a wheelchair and drags himself around when there isn't anyone there. The house is not wheelchair accessible so to get onto the patio he would have to get out and use the handrail. It would be a massive risk (which has been emphasised by his SW, OT and GP) but he says there are risks everywhere to everyone. But if I hurt myself, that doesn't affect others. If he does, and ends up in hospital, all sorts of drama and repercussion will ensue. I am so cross and fed up and really cross with myself for reacting.