My mum is 87 and was diagnosed with Alzheimer's two years ago, my brother passed away nearly nine years ago and so I am left as the only child looking after mum. Everyone tells me that I will know when the time is right for mum to go into residential care, and that light bulb moment happened on Tuesday of this week and I have now found a place where I feel mum will be well cared for, but my feelings of guilt and the sense of drowing in a sea of dark grey gunge leaves me totally overwhelmed.
On Tuesday mum announced that she had seen her mum and asked me how long she was staying for??
Mum has just called me, the first time in three years worried that she hasn't heard from me (I called her at 8am) and is wondering when her mum who apparently is staying with me is going to see her......
I would normally jump in the car and go and see her, but tonight for the first time in almost a year we are going out to a dinner dance and my hairdresser is due to arrrive shortly. And I think my husband would have a fit if I put mum first, again!
Not sure what to do, a carer will be with mum again at 2:45 for a couple of hours but then what
Not sure either how I get mum to the residential care home either, the other complication is that she has a six year old dog, whom she thinks is her daughter.
Can't sleep, can't think what and how do I do this
Can anyone suggest what can be done - thank you
This is my first post so not sure if I have correctly linked this but as you can probably tell I am not coping very well
On Tuesday mum announced that she had seen her mum and asked me how long she was staying for??
Mum has just called me, the first time in three years worried that she hasn't heard from me (I called her at 8am) and is wondering when her mum who apparently is staying with me is going to see her......
I would normally jump in the car and go and see her, but tonight for the first time in almost a year we are going out to a dinner dance and my hairdresser is due to arrrive shortly. And I think my husband would have a fit if I put mum first, again!
Not sure what to do, a carer will be with mum again at 2:45 for a couple of hours but then what
Not sure either how I get mum to the residential care home either, the other complication is that she has a six year old dog, whom she thinks is her daughter.
Can't sleep, can't think what and how do I do this
Can anyone suggest what can be done - thank you
This is my first post so not sure if I have correctly linked this but as you can probably tell I am not coping very well