Thank you so much for replying and what a terrible time you have had. Such a lot to cope with . I'm sorry to say this but I think you definitely need to tell them you can't take your Mum home. You are worn out . You both need time apart to resolve these issues . Please think seriously about this . It is not in your Mum's interest for you to be worn out. SusanUPDATE......Mum collapsed and banged her head in the bathroom early yesterday morning and was unconscious for 5 minutes. I called an ambulance. She was not fully with it until they got there 20 minutes later. After travelling to our nearest hospital 3/4 hour away, Mum was refused admittance and the ambulance was turned away due to being an 8 hour wait!! We then had to travel to another hospital a further 3/4 hour away and were seen straight away. Did all the normal checks and Mum was smiling and seemingly ok until she had a CT scan and was separated from me and then went totally ballistic. She then turned totally against me, screaming and telling me she hated me. She was shouting at all the nurses, ripping off her tubes and canula and trying to run down the corridor. It was heartbreaking. I know hospitals are frightening for a pwd but I've never known Mum to be that bad. I kept apologising to the staff and nobody seened able to calm or help her. Eventually after several hours, they found a space off the ward in a side room. She was given her own 1-2-1 nurse. Bless her, she wasnt very old and I felt so sorry for her. Despite the charge nurse and doctor and other nurses trying to get her "wired up" again she kept pulling everything off and refused to take bp meds, as by then her bp was sky high. Eventually the doctor came and spoke to me to tell me they couldn't find anything wrong with her. Bloods ok, no apparent infection, heart ok, nothing showing on ct scan of concern, just high bp. He told me to go home and get some rest and they would keep Mum in overnight and once her bp is ok she will be discharged! I wanted to stay with Mum but with feeling so unwell with a chest infection, I decided to go home. As I left, Mum wouldn't kiss me but continued to scream she hated me, it was all my fault being there and that she never wanted me near her again. I looked back through the door to see her holding hands with the nurse and smiling and kissing her cheek. Hearbreaking is not the word. I'm now waiting to hear how she is this morning.
Thank you for your responses and my heart goes out to all of you who are going through/have gone through similar. I will try and get to replying to each of you but just wanted to let you know the latest.