This sounds awful but please don't shout me down
MIL loves the Day centre. She gets proper stimulation and company. The staff there say she seems to love it and chats to everybody. Joins in the singing and games and quizzes
She loves the hair dressers as she talks non stop with the hairdresser and other clients. The hairdressers commented that as soon as I walk into the hairdressers to pick her up her conversation stops abruptly
However much I try I don't seem to be able to give her that. I try hard, I take her out but she doesn't really speak to me. I do try I really do.
Hubby correctly reminded me yesterday that as she has hated me for the 35 yrs of marriage she isn't likely to change. And I agree with him. I have spent years at her place where she just ignored me for hours. I thought I had cracked her hatred over the years by being kind, never retaliating etc. MIL loves being with her son my hubby. Loves it even if he says hardly anything
This is not something we want to do BUT would she get better stimulation if she lived in a CH? I actually don't think she is 'ready' for a CH but do wonder if she would fare better as long as we take her out/visit regularly. If asked she would obviously say she would not want to go into a care home
Just a thought???
MIL loves the Day centre. She gets proper stimulation and company. The staff there say she seems to love it and chats to everybody. Joins in the singing and games and quizzes
She loves the hair dressers as she talks non stop with the hairdresser and other clients. The hairdressers commented that as soon as I walk into the hairdressers to pick her up her conversation stops abruptly
However much I try I don't seem to be able to give her that. I try hard, I take her out but she doesn't really speak to me. I do try I really do.
Hubby correctly reminded me yesterday that as she has hated me for the 35 yrs of marriage she isn't likely to change. And I agree with him. I have spent years at her place where she just ignored me for hours. I thought I had cracked her hatred over the years by being kind, never retaliating etc. MIL loves being with her son my hubby. Loves it even if he says hardly anything
This is not something we want to do BUT would she get better stimulation if she lived in a CH? I actually don't think she is 'ready' for a CH but do wonder if she would fare better as long as we take her out/visit regularly. If asked she would obviously say she would not want to go into a care home
Just a thought???