My FIL had to move in with us five years ago after a diagnosis of vascular dementia. I work from home and my sister in law lives in England so it seemed like the best solution....someone would be here for him, I guess that would be me. After five years I think I have had enough.
He is physically ok, thought is prone to falling at the moment, he is 90 now, his memory is very poor. I just seem to spend my days running up and down from my office in the garden (he got my office in the house and I had to move out into a shed) to check he is ok. I've just had a morning where he fell over in the bathroom, I had to get him up, clean him up as he had wet himself, dress him and get him to the breakfast table, he was ok but unfortunately he'd knocked over the wash hand basin pedestal and burst a tap, cue emergency plumber...he was totally oblivious to the chaos. Lunchtime is the usual chewing food then picking it out of his mouth as its 'too hard' and also spilling most of it over himself and the floor....cue another clean up.
I know I sound like a grumpy cow, however this has been my day for the last five years. I also am a mum, I am self employed and very busy though not getting any work done due to the constant interruptions and trying to keep the house together. My kids are getting very tired and finding it harder to see their grandad become this stranger but also frustrated as we can do NOTHING together anymore as we cannot leave him alone I the house.
My husband is wracked with guilt that I am left with him all day but he has to go out and earn a living.
He just started a day care trial last week so my one saving grace is that I can try and catch up with a weeks work in one day....my sister inlaw cannot help as her husband won't have him, as she refused his mum and she also has a very ill grandson at the moment.
I just want him to go to sleep and not wake up.
Apologies it's been a bad day and I think I'm going to burst.
He is physically ok, thought is prone to falling at the moment, he is 90 now, his memory is very poor. I just seem to spend my days running up and down from my office in the garden (he got my office in the house and I had to move out into a shed) to check he is ok. I've just had a morning where he fell over in the bathroom, I had to get him up, clean him up as he had wet himself, dress him and get him to the breakfast table, he was ok but unfortunately he'd knocked over the wash hand basin pedestal and burst a tap, cue emergency plumber...he was totally oblivious to the chaos. Lunchtime is the usual chewing food then picking it out of his mouth as its 'too hard' and also spilling most of it over himself and the floor....cue another clean up.
I know I sound like a grumpy cow, however this has been my day for the last five years. I also am a mum, I am self employed and very busy though not getting any work done due to the constant interruptions and trying to keep the house together. My kids are getting very tired and finding it harder to see their grandad become this stranger but also frustrated as we can do NOTHING together anymore as we cannot leave him alone I the house.
My husband is wracked with guilt that I am left with him all day but he has to go out and earn a living.
He just started a day care trial last week so my one saving grace is that I can try and catch up with a weeks work in one day....my sister inlaw cannot help as her husband won't have him, as she refused his mum and she also has a very ill grandson at the moment.
I just want him to go to sleep and not wake up.
Apologies it's been a bad day and I think I'm going to burst.