i am following on from a thread that I had posted a little while ago now on the second page lots of people reading noone in this area is replying. I have been moved because I was on the area that says "I have a partner or spouse with dementia" I thought that was the right area as I do not care for my dad at home he is in a Care/Nursing home but I am trying to get as involved as much as I can. My mum died in a residential home in March 2013 and my dad has had to sell the family home to self fund the care/nursing home so i have lost such a lot in a small space of time. Now he is poorly, he has had vascular dementia diagnosed about 2 and half years ago, he also has gloucoma, catahachts in both eyes, he is deaf in both ears and has arthritis. Three weeks ago he has been struck with a nasty water infection then a chest infection and oral thrush, to me he is still not getting better, although he has an air bed, I was told yesterday he has a small bed sore on his bottom and he also fell out of bed the other night, I am at my wits end and soooo worried about him although I think he is better there than in hospital I really do not know what to do next????