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Journey's end

Lonestray

Registered User
Aug 3, 2006
236
Hereford
It's with a heavy heart that I tell you Jean, my wife of 52 years passed away at 05.15Hrs on the 12 th.
I'm comforted by the fact that I defied all the rules and refused to let her die in a NH some five years ago, when she was in the end stage. Over the past four years, eight months and 11 plus days, I've been privileged to care for alone, not allowing anyone to touch her but me. During this time she has spoken but two words and been incapable of any movement, rigidity had set in. It has also been my good fortune to be of the same generation and at 76, being in better than an average fitness level, it allowed me to do the caring as well as all the daily tasks around the home.
I've had so many questions from Nurses and Doctors as to how I managed to keep Jean alive so long and in good health. It's a sad fact that so many of the medical profession addmitted they knew little of Alzheimer's. At least they were interested to learn. Even the Doctor who four and a half years ago advised me not to sit holding Jean's hand overnight, as she would pass away when I went to the toilet, or made a drink, paid a visit. In his words I'd performed an incredible astonishing act of love by bringing her back to health.
Strange as it may seem to some, by entering Jean's world I'd got to understand so very much and was rewarded in a way words can't express. I can say, we were both at peace in that world.
After 12 years of AD, the early years were painful when she kept wanting and trying to go home. Now I understand that longing, she's now reached home and the bosum of her departed family also our fifteen year old daughter.
She lit up my life with love, where there'd only been the darkness of a loveless life. She's been my inspiration, with her work done it was time to go. God love her and thank you for sending her to me.
To all you carers out there I pray you receive the strength to carry on and may your God go with you. Padraig
 

Grannie G

Volunteer Moderator
Apr 3, 2006
71,362
Kent
Dear Padraig.

Please accept my deepest sympathy and sincere condolences on the death of your wife Jean.

I hope it will be of some comfort for you to know she is at peace, and you did absolutely everything possible to keep her comfortable during her final years.

With love xx
 

blue sea

Registered User
Aug 24, 2005
270
England
So very, very sorry, Padraig, that you have lost Jean from this life. You kept her with you far longer than any 'experts' could have predicted and that will always be your gift of love to her. May peace be with you now she is in her final rest.
Blue sea
 

Skye

Registered User
Aug 29, 2006
17,000
SW Scotland
Dear Padraig, so very sorry to read that your beloved wife Jean has passed over. I know from your posts how very much she meant to you, and you have devoted your life to keeping her comfortable, secure and cherished.

Jean is at peace now, her suffering is over. There will be a huge gap in your life now, and I hope you will continue to be a part of our family, if that is what you want.

May God bless Jean, you and your family.

Love,
 

zonkjonk

Registered User
Mar 1, 2007
290
Melbourne, Australia
Dear Padraig
I am so sorry to read of Jeans death.
Your love for Jean shone through in all your posts.
you did the absolute best you could for so many years.
You were lucky(wrong word) to have each other through the hard times.
One blessing, Jean will now be re-united with Karen.

I hope the following days/months will not be too trying on you
Take care of yourself,
Kind regards,
Jo
 

Tina

Registered User
May 19, 2006
420
Dear Padraig,

it is with a heavy heart that I read your post and the news of Jean's passing. I have followed your incredible story in the many posts you have so kindly shared with us on TP.

Anything I could say would sound trite, but I am very very sorry to hear Jean is no longer with you and I know there will be a huge gap in your life.

I hope you can find a little comfort in knowing you accomplished a sheer gargantuan task and defied all the odds for such a long time. Jean will always be with you, in your heart and in your memories.

With love and condolences to you and yours,
Tina
 

christine_batch

Registered User
Jul 31, 2007
3,388
Buckinghamshire
Dear Padraig,
I am so sorry to know that Jean has passed away. What you did for her was our of love and devotion and that can be the most powerful medicine.
My prayers and condolence are with you at this time.
Take care of yourself. God Bless. Christine
 

TinaT

Registered User
Sep 27, 2006
7,095
Bolton
Dear Padraig, I am so very sorry to read of your loss. You are a strong and focussed person who has fought and won an incredible battle for several years. I know that you have the comfort of having taken care of your wife in the most wonderful way. xxTinaT
 

Brucie

Registered User
Jan 31, 2004
12,413
near London
Hi Padraig
your story of yourself and Jean has been an inspiration for many people.

Condolences on your great loss.

Take care of yourself.
 

Linda Mc

Registered User
Jul 3, 2005
1,881
Nr Mold
Dear Padraig

So sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved wife. Take comfort in knowing no one could have done more for Jean than you.

Love Linda x
 

Canadian Joanne

Volunteer Moderator
Apr 8, 2005
16,503
66
Toronto, Canada
Dear Padraig,
I am very sorry to hear of your loss. Your devotion to Jean and your determination and drive to care for her your way is a beacon of hope to us all.
 

nickyd

Registered User
Oct 20, 2007
146
50
warwickshire
Dear Padraig,
So sorry to hear about the loss of your Beloved Wife. You remind me of my Dad with your love, devotion and determination for your Wife.
With Deepest Sympathy, Nicky xxx
 

dmc

Registered User
Mar 13, 2006
1,157
dear padraig

im so sorry on the passing of your dear wife

i have been full of admiration for you over the last year i have been on tp.

may you find the strength to see you through this very sad time

my thoughts and prayers are with you

donna x
 

McK

Registered User
Sep 13, 2005
62
Pgh. Pa. USA
Dear Padraig,

My deepest sympathy to you and the rest of your family on the death of your "Soul Mate", Jean. You have inspired us by your endless love and devotion to Jean that only true love and sacrifice can endure. God Bless - McK
 

Tender Face

Account Closed
Mar 14, 2006
5,379
NW England
I think Padraig, you and Jean had already found the end of the rainbow in your journey together which others of us can only dream of achieving ..... may you always continue to bask in the pots of gold you found in each other,

With all my love and admiration as always, Karen, x
 

Norman

Registered User
Oct 9, 2003
4,348
Birmingham Hades
Padraig
I completed the journey a short time before you. when my precious Peg decided enough was enough and left this earth.
I can imagine what you are feeling at this time and I feel for you.
No words can help,look after yourself
Norman
 

Grommit

Registered User
Apr 26, 2006
2,127
Doncaster
What can I say Padraig that has not already been said.

The end of Jean's journey has come, you did more than your best to help, comfort and share with her the difficulties she was going through.

I sincerely hope that you are granted the strength and fortitude to bear what has to be bourne and that the memories of the life you spent together will carry you along.

I offer my sympathies to you with respect and understanding.
 

Cate

Registered User
Jul 2, 2006
1,370
Newport, Gwent
Dear Padraig

I am so very sorry to see the news that your lovely girl has gone from this world in peace to the next.

You have been an inspiration to us all in your tender loving care of such a lovely lady.

You and Jean are in my prayers.

With love and respect

Cate xxxxx