1. familycarer2019

    familycarer2019 New member

    May 31, 2019
    2
    only one of us is doing all the work, the other refuses causes so much stress. Would a joint and several leave me to get on without him and spiteful emails or would it give him more power to dictate without doing anything?
     
  2. Sarasa

    Sarasa Registered User

    Apr 13, 2018
    437
    My brother and I have joint and several POA for my mother. At the moment she is in a home and we are selling her flat using POA. My brother is seriously ill and really can't do a lot at the moment. After discussing it with the solicitor, I'm doing the heavy work on getting the flat sold, but she would like my brother to contact her when he is able to confirm that he is OK with what I'm doing. So yes it might make things easier. Not sure how easy it is to change things though, I'm sure someone will be along soon to advise.
     
  3. Bod

    Bod Registered User

    Aug 30, 2013
    1,141
    Exactly how is it set up now?
    Joint and severally, could mean he can do things without referring to you. As could you...without him...
    Jointly, you both have to agree, before you can go ahead.
    Would he care to give up the POA, letting you do all the work, without him?
    Not everybody is comfortable with the responsibility.

    Bod
     
  4. jenniferpa

    jenniferpa Volunteer Moderator

    Jun 27, 2006
    39,432
    You say deputyship. Do you actually mean you have a joint LPA?
     
  5. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    10,222
    Female
    South coast
    You talked about deputyship. Did you have to go through the COP to get it? If so, I would speak to the Office of Public Guardians.
     
  6. care2share

    care2share Registered User

    Jun 14, 2015
    92
    London
     
  7. care2share

    care2share Registered User

    Jun 14, 2015
    92
    London
    Do try to work it out between you if possible. I would not be to too eager to let it be known that the deputyship is not working since it is possible you would both be removed and a panel deputy appointed.
     
  8. silversea2020

    silversea2020 Registered User

    May 12, 2019
    81
    Wise words here Care2share .....our situation because of contention between 3 siblings has meant an independent panel Deputy has been agreed but 2 months on after the court hearing and still we await S to who exactly the Deputy will be.....plus there’s all the costs involved - it’s a nightmare I wouldn’t wish on anyone
     
  9. care2share

    care2share Registered User

    Jun 14, 2015
    92
    London
    Yes, it's daylight robbery. My thoughts are with you silversea2020.
     

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