@nitram @Scarlet Lady @MartinWL
Thanks all for your help, really it means a lot to me & was super helpful.
My Aunty died in February, she was my main support in the family as she understood what my sister is really like. I withdrew from life a little bit since...
After that things were a little more calm, but more me being withdrawn from the situtation & finding better meds for my mum. I did check the property ownership as per
@nitram suggestion. I have copied the details at the end of this message. Perhaps you can comment on what this means? The registered owner is my mum.
Things have flared up again, my sister wanted to extend the house, she was nice for a while. I agreed to a small extension for the purposes of a live in carer & an agreement the extension wouldn't disturb mum. Then my sister decided the simple extension needed to turn the place into a mansion, suddenly it became a 2 storey extension to a bungalow. I disagreed to the mansion. She intends to use mums money for the extension.
Despite my disagreement to the mansion she went ahead & filed the mansion plans in November, I learned of this last week when the planning notice was applied outside the house & downloaded the plans. So potentially this goes through planning in January.
She basically wants to spend about £150,000 of mums money extending the house, but at the same time won't allow a part time carer for mum - she needs this now. From what I understand 150,000 is the last of mums money.
I have strongly disagreed to this. I have spoken to mums sisters & they agree it is absurd. I diasagree & my sister just goes ahead and does it anyway.
I also realised she may have registered mum to an out of county GP to prevent me from access, has been a pain to drive mum to medical appointments since then. She told me it was for better care at the time.
Appreciate the comments about deputyship, I have other questions:
How do I check my sister didn't apply for deputyship already behind my back?
How do I check my sister didn't forge the POA docs and file for POA behind my back?
I have a bad feeling my sister is several steps ahead of me......
I have looked at an injunction to prevent the building work, I have spoken with mums remaining family (2 sisters & brother) who agree this work shouldn't go ahead until a budget is agreed that includes mums care needs. But they have no teeth for a fight for now, they did at least acknowledge they understand what a bitch my sister is & that they support me.
I have looked at an occupancy order to prevent my sister from threatening me with eviction.
I have contacted the planning officer - awaiting a reply.
I have been very naive - I spent a lot of money on the house in good faith & a lot of my time rennovating it. I expected my money to be repaid. My money is now 14 months overdue and not looking likely to come back. Starting to think my sister has been deliberately starving me of cash to stop me hiring a lawyer.
Any thoughts would be much appreciated - even just moral support. Just looking to do what is best for my mum.
RESTRICTION: No disposition of the registered estate by the proprietor of the registered estate or by the proprietor of any registered charge, not being a charge registered before the entry of this 3 2020-10-01 restriction, is to be registered without a written consent signed by the proprietor for the time being of the Charge dated 21 September 2020 in favour of *********referred to in the Charges Register