jenniferpa said:
That's not entirely true - the donor has to be notified at the time of registration, at which point they have the same rights to object as any of the other individuals you notify. For most people that's probably not going to be an issue, but I can see some circumstances where someone who is intermittently lucid might take issue with it. It wouldn't necessarilly have an effect on the outcome but the possibility is there.
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! You know exactly where I am coming from....
For me to have to tell mum that I am planning to register the EPA is the worst bit - the admin and paperwork doesn't bother me - it's just another job on top of being 'head cook and bottle washer' .........
When I mooted it first to mum, I got 'Let's just get it sorted' ..... minutes later I get the feisty independence that she is perfectly able ... (like able to disclose her PIN number which she thinks is a good thing because it's something she can remember
... it's that 'intermittently lucid' bit which is the problem - and which SHE needs protection from - one day she might watch the FTSE index, the next she can't count to ten..... Aside from minor details (!) like she can't see well, can't hear well and if someone is nice to her will go along with anything.......
My jitters are nothing to do with the basic admin of registering - it's the emotional fallout..... and denying her yet another piece of indepedence ... and battling with 'is this protecting?' - when it's ME has to spell out to her how incapable she has become ..... how do I protect her finances without protecting her best mental well-being and confidence? How do I take cards away from her - even if she's forgotten how to use them ...????? She has so much pride in her purse - even if she can't remember where she's put it.....
The way things are going... I feel it's me as POA that needs the Court of Protection...... I wouldn't dream of paying a solicitor/lawyer if I didn't think I need them and am quite capable of filling out a form..... BUT..... family issues being as they are .... it is not an issue of huge amounts of money but principles at stake.....
As it is, I'm going along with her 'whims' and some of her spending but leaving mum vulnerable..... and in doing so, leaving myself open to question.....
Why does it all feel like some kind of betrayal....????
Karen