After my step daughter's visit on Sunday, I spent the evening and night wondering what to do in the future when my husband could no longer stay in the hospital he is in. I worked through so many TP threads particularly 'the long goodbye' ones. Distressing as it was reading them all, I came to a decision, although it took until last night to do so. And then the decision became so clear. With my husband having been in 3 hospitals (and 6 wards) throughout the last 5+ months we have spent no time alone together at all - at least not without there being some infection or medical problem to deal with, nurses coming and going and ambulances too. Now his medical problems are gone for the time being hopefully and so too the infections. I realised that when he comes out of hospital this time it would probably be the one time we could have together again before things began to get worse through the AD. It still seems unreal that his diagnosis was just three weeks ago. I was not ready for 'the long goodbye'. I wanted a level playing field to see and understand my husband for who he is now. As you know I had been weighing up the pros and cons of home or nursing home. I have decided on home. The assessment referrals have all been made today and, although it will be several weeks before he does come home, there does seem some chink of light at the end of what has been the longest and darkest of tunnels. The only support box I didn't tick was for computer support for a university place. I didn't think my husband would really need that! Not his thing. The support package I will need will be huge I think - well the one I will ask for will be anyway. I am still looking at nursing homes but as a means of respite so that when the BIG decision has to be made, he will go to a place that already knows him and me and vice versa.