HI all
Dad is now in a respite care home for four weeks. SS have paid a third of the cost.
I referred Dad for placement because I'm a breaking point. Dad's previously supportive SW told me to write down how caring for Dad was affecting me and what I do for him. An email then came back from her, very cold and formal saying basically that they won't fund a placement because he isn't bad enough (he has no night time needs) and that it's in his best interests to stay at home. Apparently, according to them, I have to still coordinate his care, recruit a home help which Dad will pay for and carry on caring for him. Despite me telling them I was at breaking point.
Its in SS best interests to have Dad stay at home because it's cheaper for them. The only reason he can stay at home is because I do things for him. What about my best interests? I have just been signed off work sick for two weeks with stress, respite has come at the right time. I think SS are killing me and no-one will listen. I have been given a Carers Assessment date but I hear that it's just a paper exercise they have to go through to fulfill their obligations under the Care Act. Even my own MP won't get involved because Social Care is in a state of crisis in our county largely down to his party and it's a scandal they are desperately trying to cover up.
I feel so depressed.
Jane xx
Dad is now in a respite care home for four weeks. SS have paid a third of the cost.
I referred Dad for placement because I'm a breaking point. Dad's previously supportive SW told me to write down how caring for Dad was affecting me and what I do for him. An email then came back from her, very cold and formal saying basically that they won't fund a placement because he isn't bad enough (he has no night time needs) and that it's in his best interests to stay at home. Apparently, according to them, I have to still coordinate his care, recruit a home help which Dad will pay for and carry on caring for him. Despite me telling them I was at breaking point.
Its in SS best interests to have Dad stay at home because it's cheaper for them. The only reason he can stay at home is because I do things for him. What about my best interests? I have just been signed off work sick for two weeks with stress, respite has come at the right time. I think SS are killing me and no-one will listen. I have been given a Carers Assessment date but I hear that it's just a paper exercise they have to go through to fulfill their obligations under the Care Act. Even my own MP won't get involved because Social Care is in a state of crisis in our county largely down to his party and it's a scandal they are desperately trying to cover up.
I feel so depressed.
Jane xx