Hello everyone ive been away a while now just getting over my sister death it will be a year end august. some off you may remember me but for those of you i havnt met heres my background. B I L diagnosed with alt/dem 5yrs ago tho has had it at least 8 years when first signs showed themselfs just after my sister mnarried pete. my sister cared for pete untill she became terminal with cancer an pete started having fits. he was moved to assesment unit from A & E from where we placed him in nursing home nearlly 2years ago. My beautiful sister died and my husband has POA health an welfair. pete has 2 grown kids one has never visited in 2years the other now an then. pete owns a large house an the kids are upset as they cant get there hands on it till pete dies its theres in the will. petes care is paid for as he was sectioned in the beginning. the kids dont except that there dad made my hubby POA, pete said he didnt want them getting there hands on it!! i visit pete weekly an he has deteriated he is in wheelchair doesnt walk at all since a fall over a year ago. talks gobbledigook but im good at that to so we chat for visits but he asks for bren(my sister daily) he has never been told of her death. as the home said it wasnt in his best interest. im finding it harder each visit i live in petes world keeping my sister alive for him telling him she laid up today with bad back cold etc etc. can i have others opinions as to whether you think i should tell him or not. staff said he would be upset then ask for her again next day.he looks at me puzzled when he says ive not seen her in a while as though he knows in a moment of clarity somethings not right. i just dont know whats right or wrong.a member of staff said last week is bren dead!! its so bloody sad but i just want whats best for pete. regards to you all Juniepoonie xxxx