It's What I Do!

[maryjoan]

OK, so I have adjusted, put up with, sympathised with, cared for, learnt about, tolerated, loved, felt sorry for etc etc etc .....

BUT

In these dark days for our country when I am trying to keep him safe, and trying to increase hygiene, and spread of virus, and realise he has no understanding at all.

When I try to tell him not to wipe out his mug with a dirty cloth - and all I get is 'It's What I do!'

Is it now time to scream?????

 

[canary]

Hello @maryjoan , I didnt realise that he was still with you, I thought his family had moved him.
Im afraid that set responses like that are common, as you say - it reveals the lack of understanding. Its no good trying to tell him stuff - exchange the dirty cloth for a clean one and scream inside.

 

[Cat27]

I thought his family had moved him @maryjoan
Keep removing the dirty one & scream into a pillow.

 

[White Rose]

The straw that breaks the camels back isn't it. So the plan to move (or move him) didn't work out @maryjoan? My partner has no clue about the virus but luckily he takes no part in housework and cleaning these days, I just follow after him with a cloth and can usually persuade him to wash his hands after he's been to the toilet.

 

[maryjoan]

Thanks, one and all,
The plan to move him is all in place - we are awaiting a vacancy in the council lists....... I was doing really well for a short while, but everything has been put on hold now because of Covid 19. He no longer, like all our
PWD's goes out, so the 24/7 syndrome is really kicking in with me now........and for all of you - it is such a huge responsibility trying to 2nd guess everything for us all.....
I believe we will come out the other end, but I have already warned the social worker that she might have to come and scrape me up off the floor - she didn't answer that one!!

 

[Buteo]

My wife blows her nose with anything to hand, her top, towels, gloves etc. I give her tissues but you can't tell her!!!

 

[Olliebeak]

My OH insists on wearing cotton gloves as his hands are always cold. I do wash them often but you can’t wash them like your hands!

 

[Buteo]

I always wash my hands with my wife, so that she can copy me. She's got into more of a habit now and her muscle memory does the rest when she sees me doing it. If I just told her she should wash her hands she would not know where to begin and would tell me not to order her about!

 

[White Rose]

My wife blows her nose with anything to hand, her top, towels, gloves etc. I give her tissues but you can't tell her!!!

My partner does the same, the towel, gloves, tablecloth..... I feel like the nose blowing police, always having to be alert and tissues to hand .....