I care for my mum. I'm exhausted with no family support locally my sister lives abroad. Mum gets so distressed in hospital I was glad to get her home so I would be just as sad if she were in a care home. She has anxiety attacks as well as dementia. It's difficult to know when they are real breathing problems as she has chronic lung disease as well and now new medication for her heart and warfarin juggling the medication with nutrition is mind blowing and I forget my own important pills. She is demanding and won't take my advice as given by medical/nursing staff. It is going to get worse I know as she is wandering at night not recognising rooms. I have put signs on the doors so will see tonight if this helps. I know I need respite cos I benefitted when she was in hospital. But she begged me to take her home not is it worth it to appease the guilt and feed the love I have for her when I don't recognise this person as my talented fun loving and active mum. I have to everything for her and she expects it. I know she is doing emotional manipulation despite her limited capacity. I try to convince myself as a coping strategy that this is my job now and better than going to work but at least work was not 24/7. Have been reading threads on here and it helps.