Mam has started to go to the toilet when she's not on the toilet, if you know what I mean. She recognises the need, stands up, pulls down her trousers and pants (in which she wears pads), sits down and 'goes'. She doesn't recognise that the thing she is sitting on is not the toilet. This can happen on kitchen chairs, lounge chairs, and in bed. Usually a number one, but occasionally number two as well. Dad takes her to the loo regularly and often - but she won't always go. Sometimes he can spot the signs and can intervene in time, but not always. When she's in day care, twice a week, she won't go to the toilet there and saves it all up for when she gets home, and the floodgates open. When they're out and about she refuses to go to public (disabled) toilets and again saves it till they're home. Dad has had visits from and contact with the incontinence nurse but nothing much has worked with this problem. I have no ideas. Does anyone else have any suggestions or tips as to how to deal with this, please, to minimise the distress and extra work this is causing dad? Fortunately I don't think it's distressing mam as she just isn't aware. I've urged dad to get Kylie bed sheets, and other protective pads, but he's sceptical about the bed pads for some reason, although he did buy one chair pad.