So many lovely birthday wishes, after my little story - thank you - it is very, very much appreciated. Indeed. Another little story.... Yesterday we had a small family gathering, just daughter, son in law, and their two children aged 8 and 3 and my niece. OH managed to down 2 bottles of wine, almost without us noticing ( and probably without him noticing as well) He has an old fashioned 'fruit, flower, vegetable, game he likes to play with him in charge. He wanted to have 10 categories for each round, and insisted. The two small people wanted to join in but didn't understand what it was all about. Neither did other adults after OH had finished explaining his very long winded version of it. Then the alcohol and dementia took over and he couldn't remember what he was supposed to be doing. We all went along with it. The two little people amused themselves by riding around on my wheeled office chair, and eventually the afternoon came to a close. It was enjoyable, but family gatherings are not what they used to be !!!!!