UPDATE:
Dad woke on Monday morning all dressed and ready to go to the care home we organised for him...he didn't want to be late, which was a relief as we thought there would be problems getting him there...Mum took him and settled him in.
Mum had operation on Wednesday and everything has gone very well...she came home today...earlier than we thought, but she's just glad to be back and in her own home....now for some rest and recuperation
Anyway, I went to see Dad on Thursday, he didn't ask how Mum was and wasn't interested in anything I said....we were sitting in the lounge of the care home with some of the other people my Dad shares the home with and he said to me in an angry voice, "next time your mother says she's seen a nice place for me to stay, tell her not to bother!"....I asked what was wrong with the place and he shouted, "look at them, they're all nearly dead!"...I said, "Dad, they're ill, like you are"....he said, "I want to be with people nearer my own age"
...I had to laugh, Dad's 79 and these people are definitely of similar age to him. He said he wants to go home and have his granny look after him
...the name he gives me is of his mother, who died years ago...why he thinks she can look after him, heaven knows
I explain, she died a long time ago, but he doesn't believe me...he then tells me to go home, which I do. He says he's not eating but when I ask the carers they say he is and that he is behaving himself...it's just us he's angry with and he's behaving like a naughty child
will let you know how it goes..