Hello Panda, Thanks heaps for the reply so sorry that you are going through the same, it's so hard. I think your right about not wanting things around the room they don't want to identify with it, as their not staying. Mum went two days without packing and told me she was leaving everything for their jumble sale, and that she had plenty of things at her own home. It is very hard trying to come up with excuses all the time as to why they have to stay, I guess I'm lucky in away as mum can't use the phone but she is back to packing and has forgotten about the jumble sale the bed was stacked high, no coaxing could get her to let me put anything back it was so sad she asked "what terrible thing did I do that made you put me here" it's all so sad. We have had terrible storms here and my roof was damaged by a tree, there is flooding everywhere and I have not been able to see mum for three days now so I'm not sure what to expect, she may not even notice(wishful thinking).The power has been out but the phones on, so I have been able to ring. They told me mum thinks she is the gardener now until I take her home as they wont pay the gardeners any money,they are not working for them anymore. I warned them to watch the flowers she'll pull them out as soon as they bloom. Thanks for the support I will keep you posted. Taffy.