Out of everything that we've had to deal with over the last 3 years or so and will have to cope with over the next however many, the thing that really annoys me is my MIL telling all and sundry that she never sees us or her grandchildren! This is a woman who phones me constantly all day every day and who we see without fail every single weekend. My husband is also often summoned during the week for various emergencies! My husband is an only child, my MIL is widowed and we have no family to share the burden with. My children miss out on lots of things especially family time and outings because we always have to consider my MIL. It just makes me scream inside when I hear one of her friends repeat what she has told them in answer to "How are the grandchildren?" "I don't know, I never see them" I know everyone in her circle takes this with a pinch of salt but I can't help gritting my teeth when I hear it yet again. She said it to the solicitor who went round last week to arrange POA! Yes to some extent it is the dementia speaking and time must pass slowly for her but I do feel that it reflects her previous selfish and very demanding personality too - just with bells on!