well to everyone of you who has someone with dementia my hubby has been in care for 6 weeks now the first four we unbearable he didnt want to be there and i didnt want him there but could manage no longer .the last two visits have been better he wanders around a lot but is slowly coming back to see us,but joy oh joy i got 2 kisses and a hug last time and the daughter got a kiss too.But next time we go things could be very different and all i might get is you dont like me thats why i,m here, but the hug and kisses will keep me going till i get some more so we take it a visit at a time and enjoy the good bits when they come