Nae Sporran, I am so sorry for all the stress you are dealing with at the moment. Remembering my husband's funeral two years ago, I was thinking that on the day although I was fully aware of all that was taking place, at the same time I felt a wee bit detached. I'm wondering if you might feel like that and if so, the friend who talks a lot could be a comforting presence, a supportive companion and would relieve you of the responsibility of driving.
If you end up travelling alone, like the others I think a taxi is a good idea.
Lilac x