My mum is 88 & lives on her own. She has lots of physical issues & has been diagnosed with mixed dementia - Alzheimers & vascular dementia which are getting worse. She had Occupational Health come round some time ago now & they recommended that her bathroom was changed to make a shower with a chair as she has a bath & cannot get into the bath unaided. Initially she agreed to this but has become very irate saying that she can manage (we know that she can't) - she got very angry when the man came round to start the ball rolling measuring up & taking details from her - I'm now not sure that this will be the best thing for her. The work will take approximately 10 days to complete & during that time she won't have use of the bathroom. She needs the toilet several times a day - there seems to be nothing wrong with her bladder etc, she has had numerous tests, she just needs to go very often. She would have to go into respite care while the work is done, with her refusal to even try day care, we would have a huge battle on our hands to get her to go. It's extremely difficult to even get her to leave her house these days so I'm not sure whether to just leave it. I have to think of the practicalities too & as I'm her only child & the house would be left to me,but if the house is sold within 5 years then we would also have to pay some of the money back to the LA for having the bathroom converted. It is a bungalow so they are well sought after but the house needs to be modernised everywhere which would decrease the sale value anyway.