First timer on this website - any help most welcome.
I have 3 brothers and me only girl. For many years 3 of us have taken care of our parents. Eldest brother was too busy building his empire to bother about them despite my parents being there for him when his business and marriage went down the pan. Due to his non involvement - me and my youngest brother were made LPAs for both parents for health and finance. Middle and younger brother made executors of wills for both parents. Our eldest brother has recently kicked up a storm over this - saying we are devious, manipulative, cannot accept that he has been left out and he does not trust us with our parents money etc etc. (Parents will states all £ to be divided equally amongst the children.)
Our Mother died recently - she had been ill for some time. Just prior to her death we moved her into a care home as she needed more support than could be given in their dormer bungalow home. Dad has also moved into the same care home. The staff are great and dad is really doing well. Previously, we did not think he would even make a couple of weeks - he has been there two months, put on weight and always looks well dressed/groomed. Keeps telling us how good the food are and how nice staff are.
Despite this our elder brother is making a real nuisance of himself - bombarding the care home and us with complaints, being abusive to the staff, telling my dad he should be at home and there is nothing wrong with him. (My dad has been assessed by the gp as having dementia. For some reason the social worker wants to do another assessment.) Despite my elder brother not being a medic he denies all of this. He has been at the home putting messages up at the window to dad saying he is taking him home. Also been telling dad we have been stealing money. None of this is true. This is all really unsettling for dad. Oh also brother has reported us sibl8ngsmtomthemPolice, Office of Public Guardian and the care home to the CQC!
Can anyone advise us on what we can do to prevent my brother poisoning our dad’s mind and causing us so much grief? We are concerned the care home may decide it is too much trouble to keep dad there owing to my idiot of a brother. PS. I believe that my brother has financial issues owing to covid situation and is desperate for ££. The care home keep telling him not to do things but he keeps breaking the rules - how to tackle?
I have 3 brothers and me only girl. For many years 3 of us have taken care of our parents. Eldest brother was too busy building his empire to bother about them despite my parents being there for him when his business and marriage went down the pan. Due to his non involvement - me and my youngest brother were made LPAs for both parents for health and finance. Middle and younger brother made executors of wills for both parents. Our eldest brother has recently kicked up a storm over this - saying we are devious, manipulative, cannot accept that he has been left out and he does not trust us with our parents money etc etc. (Parents will states all £ to be divided equally amongst the children.)
Our Mother died recently - she had been ill for some time. Just prior to her death we moved her into a care home as she needed more support than could be given in their dormer bungalow home. Dad has also moved into the same care home. The staff are great and dad is really doing well. Previously, we did not think he would even make a couple of weeks - he has been there two months, put on weight and always looks well dressed/groomed. Keeps telling us how good the food are and how nice staff are.
Despite this our elder brother is making a real nuisance of himself - bombarding the care home and us with complaints, being abusive to the staff, telling my dad he should be at home and there is nothing wrong with him. (My dad has been assessed by the gp as having dementia. For some reason the social worker wants to do another assessment.) Despite my elder brother not being a medic he denies all of this. He has been at the home putting messages up at the window to dad saying he is taking him home. Also been telling dad we have been stealing money. None of this is true. This is all really unsettling for dad. Oh also brother has reported us sibl8ngsmtomthemPolice, Office of Public Guardian and the care home to the CQC!
Can anyone advise us on what we can do to prevent my brother poisoning our dad’s mind and causing us so much grief? We are concerned the care home may decide it is too much trouble to keep dad there owing to my idiot of a brother. PS. I believe that my brother has financial issues owing to covid situation and is desperate for ££. The care home keep telling him not to do things but he keeps breaking the rules - how to tackle?