My mum was diagnosed 2 years ago and has appeared to cope reasonably well with visits from me 2 to 3 times a day and a day centre 3 times a week. However this week she has been ill with a chest infection. We moved her to our house and I realise just how little she us coping she even has sites where she has sat in wet pads. I suggested that I would get her carers to help with personal hygiene but she cried and had a panic attack. It is not an option to stay with us but I dread to think how she would react to being in care. I just feel that we can't cope much longer. She will be self funding and the social service s have not given any help at all.