Hi everyone
My lovely dad started living in the dementia unit of a nursing home six weeks ago. When he joined he was incredibly mobile and happily got involved with activities, was quite sociable, had a good appetite, seemed content (despite being aggressively resistant to personal care). Slowly slowly he started sleeping more and eating less and in the past fortnight has declined very rapidly. He sleeps for most of the day, is refusing food and drink, is confused and jumpy and is absolutely vicious with the carers when they try and help. He's in a bad way.
Yesterday the unit lead talked to me about it and what they are doing ie offering food/drink as much as possible but not forcing. She explained that this is a common thing to happen in the late stages of dementia and there's not loads they can do. I just wondered what else I should be asking them? I'm concerned about my dad's comfort levels and also about the state of his mouth, which is very very dry indeed. Also what happens next? Do we just wait and watch him die? Seems so brutal, undignified and sudden. I just want to him to be as comfortable and calm as possible.
If anyone has any suggestions, I be very grateful. But most of all it's just good to be able to off-load here, so thank you for reading.
My lovely dad started living in the dementia unit of a nursing home six weeks ago. When he joined he was incredibly mobile and happily got involved with activities, was quite sociable, had a good appetite, seemed content (despite being aggressively resistant to personal care). Slowly slowly he started sleeping more and eating less and in the past fortnight has declined very rapidly. He sleeps for most of the day, is refusing food and drink, is confused and jumpy and is absolutely vicious with the carers when they try and help. He's in a bad way.
Yesterday the unit lead talked to me about it and what they are doing ie offering food/drink as much as possible but not forcing. She explained that this is a common thing to happen in the late stages of dementia and there's not loads they can do. I just wondered what else I should be asking them? I'm concerned about my dad's comfort levels and also about the state of his mouth, which is very very dry indeed. Also what happens next? Do we just wait and watch him die? Seems so brutal, undignified and sudden. I just want to him to be as comfortable and calm as possible.
If anyone has any suggestions, I be very grateful. But most of all it's just good to be able to off-load here, so thank you for reading.