My husband was diagnosed with Alzheimers 3 years ago and we managed pretty well until he had a stroke in August 2014.He is now 94. It was impossible to care for him at home and the awful decision was made by all the family that residential care would be the next move. The first care home had lovely staff but over the months everything else went downhill. My husband was alarmed by being surrounded by advanced dementia sufferers as he was not that badly affected. the home became dirty and smelly and the family determined to find another. It was again a difficult decision as change of surroundings is known to have a bad effect. fortunately we found a great place in May this yea and the difference in my husband has been amazing. He still needs a lot of hep with daily living but has been eating well which was not the case before. He has gained weight, not had any infections unlike before,been taking part in activities and is so contented. great peace of mind for me of course and the opportunity to have some really good time together frequently. So sometimes a move is not all bad.Unfortunately on 12th November he had a fall and broke his shoulder. He was admitted to a lovely small rehab hospital but developed pneumonia and was admitted to our General hospital. The staff are so kind and caring but he is refusing to eat and drink very much and has become very aggressive to staff and physio when they try to help him. He is now so weak and frail and we are waiting for an assessment for him to go into a nursing home when one is found with available beds that accept dementia. He has never been aggressive before and it is so upsetting when everyone is only trying to help. I know it is part of the illness.Now the family know that it is probably only a matter of time. I go every day at lunchtime to try to persuade him to eat but I am not doing very well.It just breaks my heart to think I am losing him, not sleeping, lots of tears but I have to try to stay strong for him.Is there anything else I can do?