1. Expert Q&A: Protecting a person with dementia from financial abuse - Weds 26 June, 3:30-4:30 pm

    Financial abuse can have serious consequences for a person with dementia. Find out how to protect a person with dementia from financial abuse.

    Sam, our Knowledge Officer (Legal and Welfare Rights) is our expert on this topic. She will be here to answer your questions on Wednesday 26 June between 3:30 - 4:30 pm.

    You can either post questions >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll answer as many as we can on the day.

  1. Deputypink

    Deputypink Registered User

    Aug 4, 2013
    44
    Dad died a month ago today . He was ready to go and it was his time . 86 years old - 61 years of a fantastic marriage - so even though I miss him so much - I know he is out of pain and distress . I cried for a week solid and now shed a tear now and then . I am back at work ( headteacher) and put on a smile and get on with it ! But I am so so tired - is this normal ?
     
  2. Shedrech

    Shedrech Volunteer Moderator

    Dec 15, 2012
    7,458
    Yorkshire
    Hi Deputypink
    You've sent me straight back to the months after mum died - I was tired all the time - and yet I slept so much - I felt as though I were walking through treacle - everything was an effort and seemed to take more than twice as long as before - I knew I had to keep going and 'put one foot in front of the other' as my dad said, but to do so I had to concentrate hard - I walked slowly and slouched - I even missed what people were saying to me as it was an effort to just listen
    in other words- sounds very normal to me
    and you are in a position where children and adults are making demands of you every minute - a distraction, yes; however also emotionally draining
    give yourself some quiet time during the day, just to sit and breathe, just for a few minutes
    gradually you'll find you're 'waking up', maybe with the coming of Spring
    go gently
     
  3. Quilty

    Quilty Registered User

    Aug 28, 2014
    1,056
    GLASGOW
    I lost my Dad 20 years ago, and still have a little cry every now and then. I think anything can be normal when your grieving. It took me about 18 months to feel myself again after I lost my dad. I felt like I was watching myself living everyday.

    Be kind to yourself and do whatever gives you inner peace. For me that is opera, in a hot bath, with the door locked. For one of my friends it was triathlon. Find your happy place and spend time in it. Let yourself feel whatever feels right for you. Your Dad would want and expect you to go on. Knowing that helps each day.

    Lots of love
    Quilty
     
  4. Anise7

    Anise7 Registered User

    Jun 1, 2013
    4
    Chelmsford
    Loss and bereavement don't show on the outside so we expect too much of ourselves. But it is a wound and takes time to recover as much as we are able to. I agree, be kind to yourself and do the things your dad would have wished, I am guessing he would want you to enjoy your life.
     

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