Mum in care home for nearly 3 weeks and seems to be wetting the bed most nights and her room stinks of wee. I think mostly dry during the day but I always suggest she try for a wee when I am there as does my sister so haven't seen her wet, just evidence of it. I have spoken to various carers about her incontinence and seem to get vague answers. Is it normal that after this amount of time they still would not be putting in place any form of in continence care and just let her wet herself and then change the bedding clothes etc. Seems odd to me that they would rather do that than just put pads in place but I have no previous knowledge of care and don't want to feel I am pushing for something that isn't the norm.
They did talk about taking a wee sample in case she has a uti, that was two weeks ago and it hasn't been done, On Saturday I asked for a pan to go in her toilet but she didn't go, the pan was still in her bathroom yesterday so did get a sample and left it in the pan with the lid on under her sink and let someone know just hope it isn't still there today.
They also seem to let Mum get herself dressed so sometimes we go and she will have a cardigan on but no top underneath just a bra or underslip or no pants, I just assumed as she can't do these things that they would supervise her dressing.
She also seems to not be brushing her teeth as toothbrush dry, I know if you ask her she will say she has but we have pointed this out and it still seems to not be checked.
Lastly should they be expected to check on mum in the night as she can't use a call bell, after 2 months in hospital/rehab ward she doesn't know what one is and despite one going off somewhere in the ward/home she still asks what is that buzzing noise and when you explain and that she has one is very surprised. Just worried that if she fell in the night they wouldn't know until the morning. They did have a pressure mat next to her bed for a couple of days but she soiled it and it hasn't come back.
Being in a home does mean she is now safe from wondering and getting lost but I assumed they would do more in terms of personal care, she is in a dementia unit.
She doesn't seem to have any record book so we don't really have any idea of what is done.
What do people expect a care home to do for residents I don't want to make a fuss as they are very nice and it might be the norm.
They did talk about taking a wee sample in case she has a uti, that was two weeks ago and it hasn't been done, On Saturday I asked for a pan to go in her toilet but she didn't go, the pan was still in her bathroom yesterday so did get a sample and left it in the pan with the lid on under her sink and let someone know just hope it isn't still there today.
They also seem to let Mum get herself dressed so sometimes we go and she will have a cardigan on but no top underneath just a bra or underslip or no pants, I just assumed as she can't do these things that they would supervise her dressing.
She also seems to not be brushing her teeth as toothbrush dry, I know if you ask her she will say she has but we have pointed this out and it still seems to not be checked.
Lastly should they be expected to check on mum in the night as she can't use a call bell, after 2 months in hospital/rehab ward she doesn't know what one is and despite one going off somewhere in the ward/home she still asks what is that buzzing noise and when you explain and that she has one is very surprised. Just worried that if she fell in the night they wouldn't know until the morning. They did have a pressure mat next to her bed for a couple of days but she soiled it and it hasn't come back.
Being in a home does mean she is now safe from wondering and getting lost but I assumed they would do more in terms of personal care, she is in a dementia unit.
She doesn't seem to have any record book so we don't really have any idea of what is done.
What do people expect a care home to do for residents I don't want to make a fuss as they are very nice and it might be the norm.