My OH has got Vascular Dementia and Alzheimer’s. His long term memory is bad aswell now. He can’t remember friends or relatives only those he sees regularly. He has an adopted son and daughter from his first marriage who rarely visit, they have both sent Father’s Day cards but it’s upset him because he can’t remember who they are! He knows our daughter but she visits often with our grandson.Has your husband been diagnosed with Vascular dementia which can go in ‘steps’? I keep a log of what’s been happening (and feel guilty about it!) and I notice too that he has ‘good phases and then bad. Each time though the bad seems a little worse than before.
His short term memory is getting worse and I’ve recently noticed that his long term memories can occasionally be a bit iffy. For example, his parents had lived in the same house ever since they were married till they passed away. He told me recently when we were chatting that he couldn’t remember the layout of his parents house. (an ordinary 3 bed semi I might add, no vast mansion). His word finding is more difficult too. I’m getting good at playing 20 questions like, ‘the shop’. Ok, ...in this town? What does it sell? etc,
He has been aggressive and violent and is taking antipsychotic drugs to calm him down. But he does still get the temper tantrums but is not violent since taking the drugs. But after the tantrums end the memory is always worse.
He will be going in respite for the first time soon as I need an operation on my eye and will need time to recover not sure how he will cope with it. I can only hope he likes it as i would love this to be a regular thing to give me a break.