Since OH was diagnosed, and I am 24/7 carer, our income has plummeted - but we manage - we are ever so slightly over thresholds for benefits, but do get AA.
I keep my chin up most of the time, but experience most of what I read on here.
My much loved younger son, lives over 400 miles away, and they are expecting their first baby. He is so very very excited at the thought of being a Daddy, and I am very happy for them.
His wife's family are all nearby and see them most days - so already I am feeling a little envious that they will see baby all the time and I won't.
I have a big birthday in Dec, and felt I wanted a party - a bit worried that my OH will not co operate due to the dementia, but think I can hold it all together. Family and friends are coming. But, there is a complication. My son's mother in law, also has a big birthday on exactly the same day !
My son has just phoned to say they will not be coming to my party - because his wife is pregnant. But we had talked earlier in the year of her staying there to be with her mother on her big birthday, whilst my son comes to see me. Now I just feel that my sons mother in law will not only get to see the baby all the time, but gets to see all her family on her Big Birthday, while I get neither, and I have the added burden of coping with little money and a PWD. The mother in law is a lovely lady, and has just bought the pram - which is super of her, and I appreciate that - but she was able to pay the £1000 it cost - which I couldn't....;...
I am really upset - but a little bit of me thinks he might just be having me on, and he will turn up on the day - but am I being really, really stupid and lining myself up to be more upset.
I just hate the dementia that has taken my partner away from me, and feel so lonely.
I keep my chin up most of the time, but experience most of what I read on here.
My much loved younger son, lives over 400 miles away, and they are expecting their first baby. He is so very very excited at the thought of being a Daddy, and I am very happy for them.
His wife's family are all nearby and see them most days - so already I am feeling a little envious that they will see baby all the time and I won't.
I have a big birthday in Dec, and felt I wanted a party - a bit worried that my OH will not co operate due to the dementia, but think I can hold it all together. Family and friends are coming. But, there is a complication. My son's mother in law, also has a big birthday on exactly the same day !
My son has just phoned to say they will not be coming to my party - because his wife is pregnant. But we had talked earlier in the year of her staying there to be with her mother on her big birthday, whilst my son comes to see me. Now I just feel that my sons mother in law will not only get to see the baby all the time, but gets to see all her family on her Big Birthday, while I get neither, and I have the added burden of coping with little money and a PWD. The mother in law is a lovely lady, and has just bought the pram - which is super of her, and I appreciate that - but she was able to pay the £1000 it cost - which I couldn't....;...
I am really upset - but a little bit of me thinks he might just be having me on, and he will turn up on the day - but am I being really, really stupid and lining myself up to be more upset.
I just hate the dementia that has taken my partner away from me, and feel so lonely.