You did what you thought was best, and that's all you can do, Linbrusco. I'm sure you know your mum's likely reaction better than the person who made the comment about telling her earlier.
Even though I'm quite measured in what I do and don't tell dad these days (trying to avoid distress or arguments), I sometimes (often!) say the wrong thing by accident. In my case, dad's reaction to something will vary day to day. So difficult! Sometimes I think he cope ok with a certain bit of news, and for some reason it sets him off in a bit of a spiral!
We can only do our best ;-)
Even though I'm quite measured in what I do and don't tell dad these days (trying to avoid distress or arguments), I sometimes (often!) say the wrong thing by accident. In my case, dad's reaction to something will vary day to day. So difficult! Sometimes I think he cope ok with a certain bit of news, and for some reason it sets him off in a bit of a spiral!
We can only do our best ;-)