My dads ex has now, after leaving 4 months ago, been in touch with dad to say she's coming back to take some furniture. When she first left we discussed what she would take, with me worrying that too much change for dad would be too difficult for him to take at such a difficult time for him. He desperatley needs stability. At the time i said that the only things i wanted definately leaving would be his bedroom furniture and his TV. At the time she went mad at me saying how could i think her so cruel to think she might consider that.
Now shes saying that shes taking his drawers out of the bedroom. Dad realy didnt know how to react to this information. He seemed so conflicted as he still really cares for her and hasnt been able to see any bad in her, so he was quite upset about it. I dread to think how he will be when she comes to take it. We have spoken to the solicitor and she has said that his ex is within her rights to take things from the house as her name is still on the mortgage.
Im finding this so difficult. It is so hard living in a house where, someone that for no reason hates me so much, can come in at any time whilst im out and there is just nothing that can be done about it. The solicitor even told me that if i were to get the locks changed she would be well within her rights to break in! Its just a nightmare.
Im tryigng my best to focus on caring for dad as that is the thing that is important, but im barely sleeping with all the stress and worry that im goign through due to his ex, and im living with constant dread, just waiting for the next thing to be sprung on us.
Sometimes i worry that im crazy, and that im over-reacting, i worry that my feeling toward her are biased and that what she's doing isnt as bad as im seeing it and that i must have done something along the lines for her to hate us so much. But i just cant see what, i havent said one bad word to her and i've been so much more patient than anyone can believe.
Sorry this is yet again another long post, but i just feel like i am going out of my mind! x x
Now shes saying that shes taking his drawers out of the bedroom. Dad realy didnt know how to react to this information. He seemed so conflicted as he still really cares for her and hasnt been able to see any bad in her, so he was quite upset about it. I dread to think how he will be when she comes to take it. We have spoken to the solicitor and she has said that his ex is within her rights to take things from the house as her name is still on the mortgage.
Im finding this so difficult. It is so hard living in a house where, someone that for no reason hates me so much, can come in at any time whilst im out and there is just nothing that can be done about it. The solicitor even told me that if i were to get the locks changed she would be well within her rights to break in! Its just a nightmare.
Im tryigng my best to focus on caring for dad as that is the thing that is important, but im barely sleeping with all the stress and worry that im goign through due to his ex, and im living with constant dread, just waiting for the next thing to be sprung on us.
Sometimes i worry that im crazy, and that im over-reacting, i worry that my feeling toward her are biased and that what she's doing isnt as bad as im seeing it and that i must have done something along the lines for her to hate us so much. But i just cant see what, i havent said one bad word to her and i've been so much more patient than anyone can believe.
Sorry this is yet again another long post, but i just feel like i am going out of my mind! x x