Hi all, Once again thank you to all and any you read and or respond!
Anyone with someone in care will know what a horrible time we are all going through! Hopefully our loved ones with late stage dementia aren't too aware of what is happening in the outside world and although they may have some moments of realisation, they don't miss us too much. I often say to my dad (who lives independently), mum is better looked after than us! It always makes him smile and gives him some relief.
I have prattled on there and got away from the question ! Sorry
All of the calling and messaging to CH is done by me (only child) and I pass all the news on to dad. It makes it much clearer and easier (as I suspect dad is in the early stages of dementia).
Last week I sent a quick message (I never know the best time to call), just asking if mum was doing ok etc. The answer i got back was (and I quote "mum is ok, much brighter" I was a bit shocked as I didn't know she hadn't been "bright" I sent another message (to another manager) the next day and got the same "a little brighter today".
I know they are not going to tell me every time she has an off day (baring in mind, she is end of life, sleeping 90%, food blended etc) and I know I might be reading into this but should I bring it up with them? Even a "was she poorly then?". Like I say I might be reading into it too much, but my one thing with the CH, right from the beginning was to be straight with me. I want to know things, especially at this time when we can't visit. Or don't say she is "brighter" if you are not going to tell me she was having an off day!
Now I don't know if this is a question or just a get it off my chest rant!
Thank you everyone for being patient with me,
J xx
Anyone with someone in care will know what a horrible time we are all going through! Hopefully our loved ones with late stage dementia aren't too aware of what is happening in the outside world and although they may have some moments of realisation, they don't miss us too much. I often say to my dad (who lives independently), mum is better looked after than us! It always makes him smile and gives him some relief.
I have prattled on there and got away from the question ! Sorry
All of the calling and messaging to CH is done by me (only child) and I pass all the news on to dad. It makes it much clearer and easier (as I suspect dad is in the early stages of dementia).
Last week I sent a quick message (I never know the best time to call), just asking if mum was doing ok etc. The answer i got back was (and I quote "mum is ok, much brighter" I was a bit shocked as I didn't know she hadn't been "bright" I sent another message (to another manager) the next day and got the same "a little brighter today".
I know they are not going to tell me every time she has an off day (baring in mind, she is end of life, sleeping 90%, food blended etc) and I know I might be reading into this but should I bring it up with them? Even a "was she poorly then?". Like I say I might be reading into it too much, but my one thing with the CH, right from the beginning was to be straight with me. I want to know things, especially at this time when we can't visit. Or don't say she is "brighter" if you are not going to tell me she was having an off day!
Now I don't know if this is a question or just a get it off my chest rant!
Thank you everyone for being patient with me,
J xx